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How to attract a man or woman – The strongest weight motivator

How to Look and feel your best to attract a man or woman

We often ignore it or give up on how to attract a man or woman, but finding the right partner is one of the biggest drives in nature.

But there is an unfortunate truth about most relationships –  One that makes for a compelling reason to refuse to be ‘average’

In 1962 two mathematicians, David Gale and Lloyd Shapley applied the Hungarian mathematician, John von Neumann’s Game theory to solving this problem:

“If everybody at a party of singles all chose the most attractive person of the opposite sex, only two people at the party will end up happy! All the rest will end up losers. However, given a little (or a lot of) compromise by everybody, everyone can end up being partnered.” (and be happy?)

This is what happens in social environments constantly. We all measure and assess each other on a variety of criteria: age, looks, grooming, body shape, personality, apparent wealth, habits, addictions, personal hygiene, status, friends and social circle, hobbies,… the list is endless.

We might be drawn to someone (and a lot of competition) because they score well on the items that matter to us. However, if our own ratings on similar criteria do not match up… we wisely give up on pursuing a possibly good relationship and we lower our standards. We compromise and we lower our sights and we end up with… the less than ideal mate, and a bad relationship!

We dare not admit to it to partners and often ourselves but we take the best that we can get. That is the hard truth of what happens to most people who do not ‘live happily ever after’.

If two people compromised too much because when they met they were not the best version of who they could be they are bound to end up in a bad relationship, with life-long marital problems. How could there be a ‘happily ever after’? The relationship is doomed to failure or a life of misery for both. Both partners entered the relationship with low self-esteem that got cemented.

Sub-conscious resentment is inevitable.

If you are in a relationship with an overweight, abusive, hard drinking, surly slob, (male or female) have a good, objective look at yourself…  What adjectives would describe you? To what extent did you let your self-esteem drop to the level where this is what you considered “the best that you could get”?

How to attract a man or a girl/woman

The question… how to attract a man or a woman, a boy or a girl… is on everybody’s mind until they find a mate…. sometimes it is buried, but it is there for us all.

The answer is clear, but many people do not want to hear it…. Make sure you are your best…  Attend to the things under your control… your weight, behaviour, grooming, personality traits.  They play a much more important role than the physical and age related things not in our control.

The easiest things to change in your attractiveness score is to change what you weigh and what you say.

If you want to know how to attract a man or a woman, be honest with yourself and start with your appearance, your weight is the most important part.

Creating a Compelling Goal to lose Weight

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Motivation to lose Weight

Motivation is the Golden Key to losing weight.

Getting in the right frame of mind

If you are looking for Motivation to lose Weight, congratulations! You are asking the right questions, because dieting and losing weight are negative concepts.  They smack of denial and hardship and no-one can stick to a diet if it means resisting temptation again and again.

Motivation to lose Weight has to be massively positive.

It has to be compelling.  You must want to achieve a very well defined goal that holds big rewards for you.  The motivation to lose weight or rather, to reach a specific targeted body shape must be so strong that it is a constant priority in your mind.

Your motivation will be pitched against temptation, repeatedly.  Motivation that is strong enough is not good enough.  It must be overpoweringly compelling, so that the competition is ‘no contest‘.

Think of how we prioritize our money and the things we spend money on.  Accommodation, transport and food typically take large chunks of our available cash-flow.  Parents will include schooling and other children’s necessities in the same group.  The money decisions we make in this category are ‘no-contest’ decisions.

We will typically spend large amounts of money in these areas and not spend too much time debating upgrading some of these items given any additional income.  On the other hand, we may have intense debates about the price of a meal, a holiday or a pricy outfit.

If you want to be motivated to lose weight, read on to get your weight-loss priority up into the ‘no contest’ zone…

How to develop the powerful Weight loss Motivation

People have different reasons for wanting to lose weight. It could be health related or it could be to be more attractive, or something else.  I will call that the Level 1 motivation.  However these motivations are typically part of a higher level motivation… health… to live longer?  Be more attractive… in order to attract a partner… in general?  or a specific one?  Call this Level 2.

And even the Level 2 motivation has a higher purpose…  Live longer may be the top level or it may not… Attracting a partner is a step towards happiness, children, a fullfilling life?

We each should identify those higher purpose drivers that ultimately make massive differences to our quality of life, the difference between a life of struggle and misfortune and a rich, meaningful life.  Once you realize that such a rich, meaningful life, (whatever it may mean to you) is in your grasp, then making your weight target part of that goal, your motivation to lose weight will have massive added power and have a natural momentum.

Are you despondent about the prospect of starting?

This is often the case with people who have been struggling with weight.  And it is often because they have memories of failure or visions of a tough struggle ahead.

If you spend time on this site you will find several techniques that will change weightloss into a positive and rewarding experience.  That is one of the secrets to weight loss motivation.

Do you feel that weight loss alone will not do it for you?

We will help you identify the other elements necessary to complete the tool set for a rich meaningful future. Perhaps you have to do a few other things as well as Losing weight in order to be motivated.

You will find resources here that will help you create a compelling package that will be highly motivating and includes losing weight and eating healthily.

As the site title suggests, this site is dedicated to building motivation to lose weight…

Here are just a few of the tools and tips you will find on these pages:

• Building a Compelling Well defined Goal- One that takes care of the weightloss targets, the fears and obstacles you anticipate and helps you clarify and address inner conflicts.
• Helping build a complete, compelling future for yourself that most people find earth shattering life enhancing.
• Build energizing enthusiasm to achieve your goals
• Identifying all resources that you will need to achieve the higher purpose goals
• Help you visualize and completely believe in such a future for yourself.
• Diets that allow you to still enjoy life, including favorite snacks.
• A bit of knowledge leads to curiosity… and if you feed it, it can lead to a keen interest and ultimately a passion.  If you follow this path, you can make healthy eating a passion that will far outweigh any temptation to overeat.
• We even have ways to make exercise really pleasant and rewarding instead of a chore.
• Weight-loss aids and supplements to weaken the temptation and strengthen the motivation to lose weight.